Nothing spoils a night of lovemaking like premature ejaculation.
It ruins the whole mood of the experience and can really take the wind
out of both your sails. Premature ejaculation can hit your confidence
and hit it hard. You feel like you let your partner down. You feel like
you have no control and lets face it...
...you have an overwhelming sense of inadequacy after the fact.
Why
deal with all this performance anxiety? Lovemaking is supposed to be
stress relieving. If you're spending the whole time worrying about
delaying your climax, you're bound to find sex less enjoyable AND you'll
be reluctant to make love the next time around.
There is a solution...
When
you're with your partner in bed, you're both reaching for the same
goal. Once you know how to last longer, you'll be halfway towards giving
your partner that eyeball rolling, pinky toe curling, screaming till'
the neighbors hear orgasm you can both smile about over breakfast.
It's
not as hard as you think to kick premature ejaculation to the curb. You
CAN last longer... if you know the right techniques. This tutorial will
show you exactly how to do it. So, without further ado, here are the
best ways to last longer in bed.
Techniques for Prolonging Ejaculation
1. Numbing Creams
Different
creams are available in most drugstores. Brand names will vary but
prevalent condom manufacturers have lines of desensitizing products.
Numbing creams, as the name implies, have a slight numbing effect on
your member.
There are pros and cons to using this strategy. An
obvious pro is that by numbing your organ, you'll certainly last longer.
A big con, however, is that you'll need to use trial and error to
determine the amount of numbing cream to obtain the desired effect.
Apply too much and you may have trouble ejaculating at all. Apply too
little and you won't see much difference in your performance.
I do
recommend this method as a first strategy for anyone suffering with
premature ejaculation. The biggest benefit with using a numbing cream is
that you'll learn to concentrate much more on your lovemaking technique
when you aren't distracted by a reluctance to ejaculate.
Your
strokes will be more controlled and you'll be thinking much more about
your partners pleasure. This is because you won'tbe overwhelmed by your
own stimulation.
2. Muscle Building Exercises
Sex is
much more physically demanding for men than women. I'm not trying to
take away from any of the wild contortion women undergo. However, in
this example I'm referring more to muscle contraction.
During
intercourse, men use their core, arms and buttocks to power most of the
thrusts. If your muscles aren't conditioned to last, you'll get tired
and subconsciously lazy with your lovemaking. It leads to faster strokes
as you rely on momentum to take some of the effort off your body.
Faster strokes means a faster finish.
Start weightlifting to
exercise these specific areas. Some great weightlifing routines for
building stamina in bed include squats, leg extensions, hip abduction,
hip adduction, dips, bicep curls and bench press. Bottom line - when
you're built for sex, your stamina will grow by leaps and bounds.
3. Slow Your Rhythm
The
fundamental strategy for lasting longer in bed is pacing your stroke.
Learning hip movement and stroke rhythm can be much like learning to
dance. You've got to coordinate with your partner for maximum pleasure.
By slowing your stroke, you'll do much more than just prolong
ejaculation. You'll make sex much more enjoyable for your partner.
Slowing
down your lovemaking gives your partner a chance to enhance her own
experience. She'll have an opportunity to change hip position and her
pelvic angle for maximum clitoral and vaginal stimulation.
Don't get me wrong. When it comes to lovemaking, there
is
a time to speed up your thrusts. I'm simply saying that in the
beginning, it's best to go slow, make sure you're both on the same page
and pace your climax to arrive after her own.
4. Train through Masturbation
Increase
your masturbation sessions to 15 minutes or longer. The average male
climaxes during sex between 5 and 15 minutes into the act. Masturbation
is a great way to train yourself away from getting
carried away.
As
you feel yourself approaching orgasm, force yourself to slow down.
Until you reach a set goal. Try for 15 minutes. Try for 20 minutes. This
isn't exactly work here, so take as long as you like. the more
self-control you gain through this rehearsal, the happier
she'll be during the live show.
5. The Squeeze Technique
If
you feel like you're approaching climax and it's way too early in your
lovemaking, squeeze right below the head of your penis, putting pressure
on your urethra. Blood will retract temporarily from the penis head and
you'll delay ejaculation.
This technique is usually used when
you're just about to have an orgasm. It's kind of an emergency stop on
your bodies automated muscle reflex. It can be uncomfortable, so the
idea here is to avoid this last minute measure altogether.
6. Let Her Take the Lead
Get
on your back and allow your partner to ride you cowgirl or reverse
cowgirl. When a woman is on top, the underside of the penis (the most
sensitive skin) is less stimulated. This will allow you to last longer.
Additionally, you won't be using your muscles to thrust. This will give you a chance to relax and recoup for the next position.
A
side benefit is that she'll enjoy the stimulus of her clitoris rubbing
on against your pelvic bone. Many women have said their favorite
position is on top because they are more likely to climax due to this
rubbing sensation.
7. Mental Exercises
Stop thinking
about your orgasm. If you concentrate on your ejaculation, it's bound to
happen much faster. You'll want to not only pace your thrusts but also
your thoughts.
You don't have to think of repulsive thoughts or
anything when you're getting close to climax. Rather, try to pace your
excitement. Rather than getting carried away with the moment, try
thinking about your technique.
You won't have to do this forever. I promise, ultimately when your stamina is built up you
can
get lost in your lovemaking. However, while you're trying to build up
stamina, this is a great way to improve lovemaking technique at the same
time.
8. Avoid Alcohol
Alcohol can have
unpredictable results on sexual performance. Take it out of the equation
by keeping it out of your bedroom routine.
I'm not telling you
that you can never have a glass of wine before lovemaking. I'm simply
saying you should determine the effect that alcohol has on you. You may
discover that it's a factor in your lovemaking performance.
9. Kegel Exercises
Kegel
exercises help tighten the muscle that
controls ejaculation. You can
become familiar with this exercise by cutting off the flow of urine and
then starting up again. The benefit of this technique goes beyond
lasting longer in bed. After spending a few weeks practicing Kegels,
you'll find that your orgasms are more powerful altogether.
You
can practice Kegels anywhere. Try them while you're at your office desk
or even in the shower every morning. They'll be hard at first but you
will build up strength in this region over time.
10. Take the Plunge
The
most sensitive part of your penis is the skin just under the head.
Shorter, faster thrusts are what lead to a faster orgasm in men.
When
you feel like you're getting close too soon, slowly and gently thrust
yourself deep into your partner. Don't go so deep, it's not pleasurable
for her. Make sure you know how far is too far.
Once you're deeply
penetrated, grind against your lover's hips. If the position allows,
stimulate her clitoris with your hands until she reaches orgasm while
you're plunged inside her.
Mastering this technique will not only
give your partner an intense orgasm. It will also allow you to calm down
and regain your composure for longer lovemaking.
