...you have an overwhelming sense of inadequacy after the fact.
Why deal with all this performance anxiety? Lovemaking is supposed to be stress relieving. If you're spending the whole time worrying about delaying your climax, you're bound to find sex less enjoyable AND you'll be reluctant to make love the next time around.
There is a solution...
When you're with your partner in bed, you're both reaching for the same goal. Once you know how to last longer, you'll be halfway towards giving your partner that eyeball rolling, pinky toe curling, screaming till' the neighbors hear orgasm you can both smile about over breakfast.
It's not as hard as you think to kick premature ejaculation to the curb. You CAN last longer... if you know the right techniques. This tutorial will show you exactly how to do it. So, without further ado, here are the best ways to last longer in bed.
Techniques for Prolonging Ejaculation
1. Numbing Creams
Different creams are available in most drugstores. Brand names will vary but prevalent condom manufacturers have lines of desensitizing products. Numbing creams, as the name implies, have a slight numbing effect on your member.
There are pros and cons to using this strategy. An obvious pro is that by numbing your organ, you'll certainly last longer. A big con, however, is that you'll need to use trial and error to determine the amount of numbing cream to obtain the desired effect. Apply too much and you may have trouble ejaculating at all. Apply too little and you won't see much difference in your performance.
I do recommend this method as a first strategy for anyone suffering with premature ejaculation. The biggest benefit with using a numbing cream is that you'll learn to concentrate much more on your lovemaking technique when you aren't distracted by a reluctance to ejaculate.
Your strokes will be more controlled and you'll be thinking much more about your partners pleasure. This is because you won'tbe overwhelmed by your own stimulation.
2. Muscle Building Exercises
Sex is much more physically demanding for men than women. I'm not trying to take away from any of the wild contortion women undergo. However, in this example I'm referring more to muscle contraction.
During intercourse, men use their core, arms and buttocks to power most of the thrusts. If your muscles aren't conditioned to last, you'll get tired and subconsciously lazy with your lovemaking. It leads to faster strokes as you rely on momentum to take some of the effort off your body. Faster strokes means a faster finish.
Start weightlifting to exercise these specific areas. Some great weightlifing routines for building stamina in bed include squats, leg extensions, hip abduction, hip adduction, dips, bicep curls and bench press. Bottom line - when you're built for sex, your stamina will grow by leaps and bounds.
3. Slow Your Rhythm
The fundamental strategy for lasting longer in bed is pacing your stroke. Learning hip movement and stroke rhythm can be much like learning to dance. You've got to coordinate with your partner for maximum pleasure. By slowing your stroke, you'll do much more than just prolong ejaculation. You'll make sex much more enjoyable for your partner.
Slowing down your lovemaking gives your partner a chance to enhance her own experience. She'll have an opportunity to change hip position and her pelvic angle for maximum clitoral and vaginal stimulation.
Don't get me wrong. When it comes to lovemaking, there is a time to speed up your thrusts. I'm simply saying that in the beginning, it's best to go slow, make sure you're both on the same page and pace your climax to arrive after her own.
4. Train through Masturbation
Increase
your masturbation sessions to 15 minutes or longer. The average male
climaxes during sex between 5 and 15 minutes into the act. Masturbation
is a great way to train yourself away from getting carried away.
As you feel yourself approaching orgasm, force yourself to slow down. Until you reach a set goal. Try for 15 minutes. Try for 20 minutes. This isn't exactly work here, so take as long as you like. the more self-control you gain through this rehearsal, the happier she'll be during the live show.
5. The Squeeze Technique
If you feel like you're approaching climax and it's way too early in your lovemaking, squeeze right below the head of your penis, putting pressure on your urethra. Blood will retract temporarily from the penis head and you'll delay ejaculation.
This technique is usually used when you're just about to have an orgasm. It's kind of an emergency stop on your bodies automated muscle reflex. It can be uncomfortable, so the idea here is to avoid this last minute measure altogether.
6. Let Her Take the Lead
Get on your back and allow your partner to ride you cowgirl or reverse cowgirl. When a woman is on top, the underside of the penis (the most sensitive skin) is less stimulated. This will allow you to last longer.
Additionally, you won't be using your muscles to thrust. This will give you a chance to relax and recoup for the next position.
A side benefit is that she'll enjoy the stimulus of her clitoris rubbing on against your pelvic bone. Many women have said their favorite position is on top because they are more likely to climax due to this rubbing sensation.
7. Mental Exercises
Stop thinking about your orgasm. If you concentrate on your ejaculation, it's bound to happen much faster. You'll want to not only pace your thrusts but also your thoughts.
You don't have to think of repulsive thoughts or anything when you're getting close to climax. Rather, try to pace your excitement. Rather than getting carried away with the moment, try thinking about your technique.
You won't have to do this forever. I promise, ultimately when your stamina is built up you can get lost in your lovemaking. However, while you're trying to build up stamina, this is a great way to improve lovemaking technique at the same time.
8. Avoid Alcohol
Alcohol can have unpredictable results on sexual performance. Take it out of the equation by keeping it out of your bedroom routine.
I'm not telling you that you can never have a glass of wine before lovemaking. I'm simply saying you should determine the effect that alcohol has on you. You may discover that it's a factor in your lovemaking performance.
9. Kegel Exercises
Kegel exercises help tighten the muscle that controls ejaculation. You can become familiar with this exercise by cutting off the flow of urine and then starting up again. The benefit of this technique goes beyond lasting longer in bed. After spending a few weeks practicing Kegels, you'll find that your orgasms are more powerful altogether.
You can practice Kegels anywhere. Try them while you're at your office desk or even in the shower every morning. They'll be hard at first but you will build up strength in this region over time.
10. Take the Plunge
The most sensitive part of your penis is the skin just under the head. Shorter, faster thrusts are what lead to a faster orgasm in men.
When you feel like you're getting close too soon, slowly and gently thrust yourself deep into your partner. Don't go so deep, it's not pleasurable for her. Make sure you know how far is too far.
Once you're deeply penetrated, grind against your lover's hips. If the position allows, stimulate her clitoris with your hands until she reaches orgasm while you're plunged inside her.
Mastering this technique will not only give your partner an intense orgasm. It will also allow you to calm down and regain your composure for longer lovemaking.
As you feel yourself approaching orgasm, force yourself to slow down. Until you reach a set goal. Try for 15 minutes. Try for 20 minutes. This isn't exactly work here, so take as long as you like. the more self-control you gain through this rehearsal, the happier she'll be during the live show.
5. The Squeeze Technique
If you feel like you're approaching climax and it's way too early in your lovemaking, squeeze right below the head of your penis, putting pressure on your urethra. Blood will retract temporarily from the penis head and you'll delay ejaculation.
This technique is usually used when you're just about to have an orgasm. It's kind of an emergency stop on your bodies automated muscle reflex. It can be uncomfortable, so the idea here is to avoid this last minute measure altogether.
6. Let Her Take the Lead
Get on your back and allow your partner to ride you cowgirl or reverse cowgirl. When a woman is on top, the underside of the penis (the most sensitive skin) is less stimulated. This will allow you to last longer.
Additionally, you won't be using your muscles to thrust. This will give you a chance to relax and recoup for the next position.
A side benefit is that she'll enjoy the stimulus of her clitoris rubbing on against your pelvic bone. Many women have said their favorite position is on top because they are more likely to climax due to this rubbing sensation.
7. Mental Exercises
Stop thinking about your orgasm. If you concentrate on your ejaculation, it's bound to happen much faster. You'll want to not only pace your thrusts but also your thoughts.
You don't have to think of repulsive thoughts or anything when you're getting close to climax. Rather, try to pace your excitement. Rather than getting carried away with the moment, try thinking about your technique.
You won't have to do this forever. I promise, ultimately when your stamina is built up you can get lost in your lovemaking. However, while you're trying to build up stamina, this is a great way to improve lovemaking technique at the same time.
8. Avoid Alcohol
Alcohol can have unpredictable results on sexual performance. Take it out of the equation by keeping it out of your bedroom routine.
I'm not telling you that you can never have a glass of wine before lovemaking. I'm simply saying you should determine the effect that alcohol has on you. You may discover that it's a factor in your lovemaking performance.
9. Kegel Exercises
Kegel exercises help tighten the muscle that controls ejaculation. You can become familiar with this exercise by cutting off the flow of urine and then starting up again. The benefit of this technique goes beyond lasting longer in bed. After spending a few weeks practicing Kegels, you'll find that your orgasms are more powerful altogether.
You can practice Kegels anywhere. Try them while you're at your office desk or even in the shower every morning. They'll be hard at first but you will build up strength in this region over time.
10. Take the Plunge
The most sensitive part of your penis is the skin just under the head. Shorter, faster thrusts are what lead to a faster orgasm in men.
When you feel like you're getting close too soon, slowly and gently thrust yourself deep into your partner. Don't go so deep, it's not pleasurable for her. Make sure you know how far is too far.
Once you're deeply penetrated, grind against your lover's hips. If the position allows, stimulate her clitoris with your hands until she reaches orgasm while you're plunged inside her.
Mastering this technique will not only give your partner an intense orgasm. It will also allow you to calm down and regain your composure for longer lovemaking.
